Tomorrow 1.30.16

There is one question I find others and myself asking much too often. It could be a question linked directly to the anxiety that we all feel when we go through a complex situation. There are a million questions that run through our heads about the series of events that may or may not happen. It could be a question influenced by the unknowns- the unknowns of the future, the unknowns of relationships, and the unknowns of events to come. What if?

If you find yourself asking what if you’re clearly weighing your options, which is the first step to any decision. For that, I congratulate you. Your next step is the harder one. This step is harder because you’re either deciding to go for it, or to refrain from whatever it may be you’re evaluating.

If you’re evaluating it in the first place, go for it. Why you might ask? If you don’t go for it, you’re going to be sitting at home in the near future asking yourself what if I had done it? Then a series of what ifs come along, and a string of doubt follows your decision to refrain. But what if you do say yes?

A reminder that you will forever question your decisions if you don’t go for it. So next time, say yes. Tomorrow, go for it. Don’t regret your decisions, and live in the moments you are blessed with.

 

Tomorrow 1.27.16

cropped-leather-bag-man-holding-bag-istock_000007639784xsmall.jpgSometimes it’s hard to accept the things we cannot change. Unfortunately, we are not in control of all variables in our lives. For tomorrow, I’d like to warn you, and advise myself to remember that it’s okay to lose control of everything, sometimes.

It’s scary, especially for similar personalities to that of my own, to easily rest knowing that I’m not in control of these such variables. Now it sounds like science, but it’s really just reality. Believe me, science is far from my expertise.

Quite frankly, coming to grips with the fact that we don’t, nor will we ever, be able to control all aspects of our waking lives is frightening.

Those around us tend to control many of those variables. I say that it’s time to stop trying to control things we can’t change, but accepting the things we can to improve our outlook on life. Accepting others, accepting new criticism, accepting the unknown, and accepting the known- accept it all but don’t let it control you. Learn from it all.

It’s easier said than done. You’re smart enough to know what controls your life.  Yet, it’s an insulting task to ask you to let go. Careers, classes, families, stigma, everything starts to manipulate your choices and actions.

It’s a challenge that I’m willing to prepare for and propose to you: will you let go and let loose? Let jobs be that- just a career. Let classes be that- just books and knowledge. Let criticism be that- just words. Don’t get me wrong, these things are important! However, it’s equally important to draw the line on what defines you and what things are just variables in your life. Let these things be themselves, and you start being you. Let loose, and accept the variables as just that- knowns and unknowns of this world that only might affect you and your personality.

My advice for tomorrow: Let spontaneity immerse you in life, rather than letting variables of unknown and controlled kinds overtake your personality.